How do you really get over a break up? I mean, really, though. Can’t you just get your Ex back?
If you’ve just experienced a break up, then you know how it’s pretty much just death. Seriously, though. You just want to die. Especially if you are still attached to that person on some level.
I find that a lot of the times, the pain comes from not accepting that it’s over. Sometimes, you just know that you are not finished and you want them back. Just about everyone at one time or another will or has already experienced some kind of a break up. Some people are great at just moving on, especially if they were ready for it to be over. But, many people are still wanting to get their ex back.
If you really believe that you are supposed to be with someone and you know that they are worthy of you and you are worthy of them and this relationship, then the following post is worth reading. I am positive that I would have missed out on one of the best relationships of my life if I hadn’t followed this.
Sometimes you get over a break up or at least try to, because you are playing the victim and you don’t want to put in any work. If this sounds like you and you are anti fighting for anything – then there are options. I know what it’s like to want to get over a break up quickly, but I also know what it’s like to push down feelings and not accept them. I didn’t want to fight for anything. I thought I was worth the fight. What I didn’t realize was that I could fight for what I wanted without me actually looking like I was desperately trying to get someone back.
Everyone has to get over a break up at some point, even if it means you eventually end up with that same person. Whether you do or not, you need to get over it somehow. Just understand that breaking up doesn’t simply mean that you cannot get back together with your ex.
Ok, I found out a pretty interesting fact. Apparently, there is no reason why you can’t get back together with an ex in 90 percent of situations. All you need to know are the specific steps to getting them back. Of course, you first have to understand why you broke up to begin with. You also have to understand that you can’t change the past. Thinking you can and dwelling on it is usually a big part of the cause of pain and frustration. Learning from your mistakes and taking responsibility form them and then growing is what will make this reuniting possible and it’s really the way to get over a break up.
There may have been several reasons or just one big “ouch” that caused the break up. Whatever happened, figure out why the mistake or mistakes happened. You don’t want to go back and repeat the same mistakes. The beauty of a healthy relationship is for both people to take responsibility for mistakes, learn from them and be better for it.
Ok, after you have figured out hat went wrong, you then need to take the next step to get over a break up and/or to get your ex back. This is so important, so pay attention!
Do not come across as needy! Again – do NOT act needy or desperate. This behavior is the number one biggest attraction killer and you can ensure your breakup will remain a breakup as long as you act this way. During a breakup, it’s normal to feel like you can’t live without your ex. But, keep it to yourself! Cry in private and even journal or talk to yourself about how you feel. Your ex does not need to see this. By acting needy you are putting a tremendous amount of pressure on your ex to make you happy. They don’t want this responsibility and I can guarantee you that the whole reason you started dating to begin with was the fact that you were happy all on your own before you even knew them. And they probably were too. We are attracted to those that have their own thing going and that don’t NEED someone else to make them happy. It’s great when they do add to your happiness, but to be the sole responsibility of making you happy and have a life is just way too much pressure for anyone and it’s a total turn off.
Stay strong during a break up and your ex see that you are completely fine on your own. Let everyone else around you see this too – that you are confident and going on with your life.
Don’t go the jealous route. Don’t act so confident that you are flaunting new people that you are dating and doing. This is obnoxious and just shows your ex that you have so moved on and that they should too. You want your ex to see that you’re doing fine, but you do not want it to inspire him or her to just completely move on and forget about you.
There are very specific steps to take and they are actually quite simple. You can find more information on exactly what to do, here:
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